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BYU-I Parenting Skills Takeaway #3: Find Role Models

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This is the third and final post I will make in my FAML 120 Takeaway series. Role Models Along the Journey My last takeaway from the class I took is comes from all the reading and experts we read and watched. This lead me to want to find and adopt role models to set as goals on my parenting journey. They would act as cairns (trail markers) on my path that I can align myself to. These include expert examples such as the authors of the reading materials, presenters of video seminars, or the course's professor. Role models could also come from our personal lives such as our own parent, grandparents, or anyone we know who we think well of their parenting style (a parenting style that is consistent with NEPEM's principles). I will list two role models I have thought about and why I want to emulate them.  It should be no secret that BYU-I is a private, religious university so both of my role models are religious in nature. If that bothers you, I'm sure there are other blogs out t
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BYU-I Parenting Skills Takeaway #2: Discipline and How to Get it Right

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 FAML 120 Takeaway #2 NO SPANKING ZONE Disciplining children is a challenging task both mentally and emotionally. Correcting unacceptable behavior is one of the duties of a parent. We are meant to function as guides to initiate children into the world. Often when we think about punishment and discipline we feel we can be too harsh on kids but there is one truth that you should use to temper those feelings: you love your children.  When we discipline we do it in a way that will work now but is gentler than what the world has in store for adults who act with similar, unacceptable behaviors. A child who never learns to stop hitting can get in trouble with the law. A child who never learns to control his temper or his tongue will lose job opportunities and relationships.  For a while now, I have known this concept as Dr. Peterson's Fifth rule for a meaningful and orderly life. Rule 5. Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them. This may seem strict and limiting bu
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BYU-I Parenting Skills Takeaway #1: Everyone in the Family is a Person, Including You.

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FAML 120 Takeaway #1 This is the first of a three-part series of my takeaways from a Parenting Skills class I took at Brigham Young University - Idaho. Each one will include a different takeaway I had from the class. Let's get started. The first takeaway may seem absolutely obvious but it is a point that needs to be restated and remembered. Every member of a family is a person with needs and feelings, including you as the parent. This concept is well represented by the first two principles of the National Extension Parental Education Model (NEPEM or a mouthful that means very little to me but its principles are meaningful) which are Self-Care and Understanding . I'll elaborate on how these two principles apply to my takeaway. Self-Care To bring your best self to parenting and family life, you have to take care of that best self. You won't have any energy, positivity, or patience to offer your children if you do not take the time to restock those resources with some self-ca
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